Bring all your drama. I've got you. (And can I just say, there is nothing in the world as cathartic as dumping all the heartache and insecurities and confusion, and having someone gently sort through the pieces to help you solve for all of it.)
This is the investment of a lifetime (literally--you'll use the tools every day the rest of your life). There's a reason it's called "Getting Your Life Back in 8 Weeks." Weekly modules and accompanying coaching calls will walk you through the process of rediscovering yourself.
I see you.
You want to have it together!
You want to bake all the yummy things, have a clean home, and enjoy that bliss that comes when you're surrounded by happy kids that treat each other (and you!) with respect.
You want to be a calm, collected person who doesn't get upended by people saying mean things or forgetting to invite you to events.
You want to feel aligned with your body and your time management and your finances.
Is it too much to ask??
Instead, home life feels like a circus on wheels. On fire.
It's a crazy one.
An irreverent one.
An auto-pilot one.
A not-so-pretty-and-I'm-kind-of sure-we're-doing-some-things wrong one.
Some days it seems like that idea of family bliss is so inaccessible.
That you can't get things right.
That you don't know how to really be patient, how to really love people.
That you are failing your kids and yourself.
And maybe--on some dark days--maybe you even start to question if your family would be better off without you.
(And THAT feels shameful and dark and horrible.)
What's a shame cleanse??
It's the soul shower that helps you rinse off and dump all the shame (or anger, or resentment, or frustration) somewhere constructive. Getting all the icky, deep, hurt and desperate feelings out of you.
It's so therapeutic.
And it can take years off of your soul.
They don't always get it. And then they get defensive. Or tired. Or worried about what's wrong with you. (That last one sure is fun.)
Girl, we all need girlfriends. Love them up. Go to lunch, do the spa thing, gripe on the phone to them all day. But don't expect true emotional relief. Why? Because our friends love us and support us and validate us. And sometimes they believe our stories when what we truly need is not someone to just grab a pitchfork and take our side. (picture of someone wielding a pitchfork). Lean on your girlfriends for all the girlfriend things. And if you want to stay a victim, girlfriends are the best. But if you're ready to let go of your pain and rewrite your story, you need something else.
Sure, getting various perspectives is a great idea. But TREAD CAREFULLY. Especially if you're struggling with someone, spreading around YOUR STORY of being a victim doesn't really solve your problems in the long run. You get an ally for a minute. But like Brene Brown says, gossip "hotwires connection" for a moment (it feels SO GOOD to be the one getting the insider scoop, right?) But Brene's research validates that time and time again, gossip is the FAKE sort of connection. Not the kind that will help us, and not the kind we really want for the long haul.
Let's do a shame [or resentment, anger, frustration or overwhelm] cleanse:
The one you want to be living.
You've been letting others write it, am I right?
The people who need you, the busy day-to-day, the errands, the needy kids, the appointments and the bills and everything in between.
It's okay. You've been doing amazing running all the things. But you're overwhelmed and burned out and sometimes wishing you could just run away from it all.
That's a sign that it's time.
And not an intervention for anyone else. This is for you.
This is not to say you are running away from your life. QUITE the contrary. You cannot be the everything when you are depleted. You can't put on an oxygen mask for someone else when you yourself are struggling to breathe. You can't show up as the best version of yourself when you are running on fumes.
This intervention doesn't involve you running away, but rather making your well-being a priority so that you can continue to serve others at your highest level.
And if you don't take your life back, who's going to do it for you? It's not your kids' job. Or your husband's. Or that exotic beach in Costa Rica. (While I do recommend vacations always, going on vacation with a depleted soul isn't going to do ANYTHING for you in the long run, because your brain will go with you.)
Someday, when the story of your life is told, will it maybe go something like this--?
She was born.
She had a childhood,
did some cool stuff in high school.
Did some college or something.
And then . . . ?
Was really busy all the time . . .
[There were a few cool vacations in there]
But always busy.
. . .
And then grandchildren.
And she was nice. But busy.
Let's talk about your unique life mission. Maybe it's time to rediscover a few things about yourself. Time to rediscover you.
Ever read The Giving Tree by Shel Silverstein?
Everyone loves Shel's poetry. But that poor giving tree is the perfect model of people-pleasing self destructive behavior. Of behavior that involves sacrificing everything that we have TO THE DETRIMENT OF OUR LIVES AND OUR PURPOSE AND OUR DIVINE NATURE.
Not today, Shel.
As your coach I say that stump is NOT GOING TO BE YOU.
Not if I can help it.
Let's do this:
Maegan says: "Deciding to do coaching one-on-one with Jessica has been one of the best decisions I've ever made.
While I always look forward to our weekly calls, I know that talking with her will not always be easy. She challenges me to grow, think about things differently, and helps me confront parts of myself I'd sometimes rather keep hidden. As she is capable and gentle I find myself feeling safe to open up with my inner, deep concerns.
She helps me see which thoughts are serving me and which ones are not to help me move forward towards a better and higher version of me.
No topics are off the table and I have never felt judged.
My confidence and ability to process emotion have increased tenfold as well as my understanding about money. I feel so blessed I've been able to work with Jessica--definitely time well spent!"
Stefanie says: "I don't think I ever in my life would have sat through certain emotional spaces long enough by myself to get to the heart of an issue that has been plaguing me for years.
Jessica's support and guided coaching through emotions that I wouldn't have tolerated on my own was incredible--and the most amazing part was I couldn't have believed there was something so good on the other side!
I am so grateful for Jessica’s life coaching. It is definitely worth the time and investment!"
Jaiden says: "Working with Jessica has been more than I imagined.
She guides me through my ugliest thoughts and darkest feelings and helps me find ways to live a more peaceful life.
Whether I come to her with questions about marriage, trauma, my child, or anxiety, she is there to sit with me through it all. She helps me process all of the emotion so it no longer weighs me down on the daily.
I love how warm her spirit is. Without her, I’m not sure where my life would be, but I know I wasn’t truly happy before her.
She has changed me for the better, and now I know that no one can take that happiness from me. I am in charge of me, thanks to Jessica."
Kim says, "This might sound a little too dramatic but life coaching with Jessica has not just been life changing, but also world changing. My view of people, societies, and social media in our world has new light and perspective.
Let's schedule a call.
Come bring everything.
Come dump it.
All the hard things, all the drama.
For one full hour we'll go deep on all the pain points in your life. (It's like a massage for your soul. But it's free. And the effects last longer.)
Your future self will thank you.