If you looked in at my life several years ago, you'd find a hot mess.
On the outside, I seemingly had the perfect life.
But the uncomfortable truth was that
And as a result, I was a controlling wife and mother, constantly frustrated at my kids' behaviors, resentful about my husband "getting" to leave the house to go to work, easily distracted and overwhelmed, struggling in some uncomfortable relationships with people who I wished would just go away or be different.
Things I would tell myself:
"I need to be nicer to people,"
"I need to be a better mom,"
"I need to not be passive aggressive with my husband at dinner even though he doesn't realize how hard I really have it."
"I need to stop getting upset about little things that don't matter."
"I need to just enjoy the journey."
Running to the next weekend, to the next vacation, to the next girlfriend get-together, to the next quiet, peaceful moment.
Trying to get away from discomfort, experiencing lots of FOMO as well as overeating & social media scrolling & other self-distracting behaviors.
Trying to tell myself that "things are fine," and "this isn't a big deal," (which of course made it feel worse).
Thinking that if I could just eat right, exercise, spend time in spiritual growth and meditation, etc., then I would be fine. (And of course I wasn't doing all of that perfect regimen of eating right/exercising/being perfect because I felt so desperate about it.)
I knew God loved me, but I also felt like my connection with Him wasn't great (and I recognize in retrospect that was largely because I didn't know how to love myself).
I discovered life coaching, and
Coaching has saved my relationships.
It has 10x-ed my already great marriage.
It has revolutionized my parenting.
It has helped me learn how to heal from interpersonal conflicts of every kind.
It has helped me learn how to become more deeply aligned with myself.
I realized I couldn't change people, but I still wanted the high quality of relief that comes when other people see things my way.
I wanted radical self-honesty that could help me truly progress in my personal life and in my relationships (not relying on BFFs or allies to validate my hurt feelings).
I wanted to be able to take whatever curve balls come my way and not become unhinged or devastated because of circumstances over which I had no control.
I became a certified life coach to help other moms through their valleys of self-sabotage and difficulty.
When I'm not coaching, I'm inventing plant-based recipes (I have a recipe book coming out shortly), playing epic board games (Wingspan, Seven Wonders, Puerto Rico), or wrangling kids (our house can have anywhere from five to seventeen kids at a time, based on how many show up to Wiest family "afternoon play days").
Also, confession: I love Disneyland and sleeping in very comfortable beds.
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